Entwined Muser

Love and all that

Ever since I've had the basic sense to understand this feeling called 'love'. I have had a decent number of encounters which stood in the opposite to this whole concept.

Let's begin from the beginning. My definition of loving someone is the seed that was sown in my heart by my folks (family and close friends). Where love meant all about caring for your close people, being there in times good or bad, making them smile, and so on.

As years passed by, and puberty stuck; my meaning of love and the way it should be projected took another turn. Where at most places or instances the term love is confined to just a lover or a partner; my idea to express it and to whom - is totally obscure.

I've been a true believer in communicating as much as I can. From being a bullied & a braise-faced girl back in school to being a confident and outspoken person today; I've learned the magic of speaking my heart out, to whoever I connect with.

For me 'I love you' is not just what I'd tell my lover or parents. Love is eternal, and everyone & everything I've ever connected with has made a difference to my current self - making themselves entitled to the love.

I love them. I love the young and silly crushes, I love the paper notes. I love the sound of the rain drops, I love the faults in myself, I love the hand-made gifts from people - which made them special with the gesture. I love the strangers whom I met at different times of life, and now, life would seem strange without them. I love the feeling of being in love, and also, when falling for someone makes it a beautiful illusion. Love is a small word but withholds a strong meaning to it.

I think love is just restricted to what you feel for just 1 person. No, if you ask me - for me love is in everything around me. I have always been a sucker for passionate love, love in watching the birds flying high, love in staring at the stars on a dark night, love in sharing your coffee with someone, love is within me, within you, outside me - outside you. It's all around if you try and see it.

Love needs no backing or justification, love is what you feel when you look at someone, love is the empathy for your close people, love is the flutter that makes you insane. We are all capable to just love and love more with each passing day of life. Hate is just a strong word, we are not entitled to hate anyone. As much as we may not like something or someone- we just 'feel' we hate them- but in reality, we don't hate them. We just don't like them much. There's a strong difference here, you see.

Well, I may not be with that someone whom I love the most always, I may not love someone else the same way, I may never fall in love with things around. But between all these things, one thing is sure - Love will always find its way to my heart. A person who is a hopeless believer in love, in any form.

Keep loving and spreading it across. Say your 'I love you' to all those people who matter the most to you, who've made a major change in your life, who've taught you sweet lessons of life, who have made you experience the ups and downs. Say your 'I love you' today, because tomorrow feels forever away.

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Corporate

Runner-Up | Corporate dilemma

We're all active participants of this non-stop race today. It's called "reach the money" and if you get hold of the bucks; you're again in the process of running much further for more and more. There's a never ending need to work, earn and expectations! Yes, with earning big bucks comes an attachment called "We expect you to run a marathon as soon as you're born". This is the fashion in which co.s act. There will never be any organisation which will be instantly satisfied with the work an employee delivers.

That's not it; if you come with an expensive price tag; you're doomed. Trust me, it's difficult to survive. Listing down a few instances that you'll will relate to quite well.

1. If you're hired with a plump investment, you better know everything.
This is the ideology most of the companies have in their minds while recruiting someone for a higher position. Simply means the "Runner up" (pseudo name for affected employees) needs to know "everything" about everything. This is true, we come across such instances several times. The following statement by employer would be,"We're investing a lot on you, please do justice to it". I understand what they mean, but they should "empathize" with the staff too. Understand that the employee left his previous job to be a part of your organisation, to add value to the efforts. He/she will take sometime to adjust, act and work in a way in-line with you.

2. You've 6 plus years of work-experience and we do not expect such mistakes from you.
Are we "God" and are not entitled to make errors? I do not understand this concept of pointing out to the employee with this topic of argument. We are all here to make mistakes and learn from them, of course we should be mindful of not repeating the same mistake twice, rather make new ones each time. If we don't fall, we'd never learn how to get-up again- this is an old age adage.

3. We're not on the same page with the wave-length.
Says who you need to think alike and portray things in a way that it's always in-line with your boss? Why can't one have a different view-point, difference in opinion and put forth his way of communicating things? I think this is completely alright a situation to occur. There's nothing wrong in not being on the same page, but one can always learn and walk the extra mile to understand this.

Only if we could all stop living for money, and acted as there's something more beyond it. Sigh.

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Communication

Dance of life through expressions

So one lousy evening, post returning home from work - my housemate and I were surfing through YouTube. I ran across a mujra number of the very versatile Rekha. Yes, the epitome of intricate beauty, that face which makes one glued towards it. The era of "mujra" - that one dance form where expressions mattered the most, the delicate movement of eyes which speaks volume without spoken words. It left me awestruck as to how beautifully could one express their love, hatred, desperation, long wait through this dance form.

We also have the magnificient Meena Kumari, the elaborate Madhubala (her eyes kill me instantly), Madhuri Dixit with her heart wrenching performance through "Maar Dala". There's a mysterios pattern which they followed through the dance which evolved into a masterpiece.

Let's read this in detail. The stance, the posture, the hand movements, the slight shift of the lips to the exquisite and extravagant mujra attitre- everything about this dance form and the era of legendary actresses and divas who have been constantly applauded for their performances- makes it even more thought of. The exuberant and extraordinare use of jewellery, the bright elegant costumes, the face make-up, the usage of color red- all these make the performance form even more eye pleasing alongwith the dance through expressions. Yes, I cannot stop "wow"ing over the expressive eyes, expressive hand moves, the floor art and also, the words murmered while performing with a little lip movement. All of these make this a treat to the eyes.

I've never had an experience where I did not get goosebumps while watching Rekha or Madhuri perform on the mujra. They're true beauties which took this form of dance a level up and made it difficult for other actresses to compete. I reckon performances like those, the utterances, the bold articulation, the communication through body language is the most Indian cinema could've achieved in the Golden Era. Even though when we have beautiful actresses today with pretty faces; the entire concept of "dance through expressions" goes missing at most places.

Signing off with a sigh of the lost times with the beautiful divas. Keep dancing, keep living through this beautiful art & smile!

Love,

Vinita

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Bangalore

What has Bengaluru Taught me?

It has been 3 months since I recently shifted base to Bengaluru (Bangalore). Every place has its own beauty and diversity in reference to the culture, people, infrastructure, cuisines and what not. All these in collation makes the place a worthwhile experience for the new dweller to come, survive and move to another place. Well, wanderers are made of this. The lust to travel to new places and imbibe learning which makes you a different person every time.

As any other person would’ve vouched for, I am no different to not fall for the pleasant chilly weather here. Yes, I have spent times without switching the fan on. Also, the untimely spell of rain showers, petrichor following it makes it so much better. The first experience of love for this city is for it’s “weather”. It never misses to surprise you. Though we see an early summer this year, which ain’t too favorable to be a part of the discussion.

The auto-rickshawaalas here have taught me the most crucial lesson. The lesson of being “patient and calm”. Everytime the second auto driver hassles me with exorbitant prices to travel near by vicinities, I feel like Buddha. I suddenly try to build my calm and serene face to not show the exact distress and difficulty that they cause by not following the meter rule. This has been a boon to me because it really helps me deal with turbulences with much ease.

The cuisines here have never disappointed me even once. The appam and curry, Galowti Kebabs with Lucknowi Parathas, the variants of rice and rice delicacies, the most delectable idlis and dosas, I can keep going on and on. I like how each city or place you go, has a different character attached to it. This is more like a personification which makes us connect to the place in several degree of intensity.

Let’s talk about the most popular, “Traffic” here. I’ve been everything including frustrated, baffled and stressed because of the “non-moving” traffic this city makes you experience. How wonderful would you feel when you’re stranded on a road with no way to get out from any direction for around 2 hours? See, you feel the same exhaustion now. Only, if there could be a way out to this agony.

Communication barrier is most common if you’re not a Kannada speaking individual. You’ll have to learn sign language, few important terminologies like “Kannada Illa” which clearly means, “I know no Kannada” to make it a convenience for you and the other communicator. A little mix of English and broken Hindi shall do the trick for you, but in extreme cases, you’ll feel like pulling your hair rather than explaining what you really want to say.

(Disclaimer: Please read ‘extreme cases’ which means when the other person is not aware or have inkling of languages like Hindi or English which can save one’s ass while communicating in any situation)

Signing off for now, more to come from my side on travel, food and any real life experience I have. Till then, keep writing and inspiring :)

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Communication

GET Rule: Make Communication effective like never before

Too much of repetition and alliteration in the headline for this post isn’t it? Well, that’s the whole purpose actually. They say that the humans get too influenced/ easily distracted by visuals and repetitive words spoken.

Since the time we gain senses and become the part of “you-are-quite-old-to-understand-everything” clan; we know that our ability to speak, hear and reciprocate is the most privileged boon we’re blessed with as we’re “humans”. This one prowess differentiates us from the other living beings. But, as time passes by & we start getting out of the comfort zone of being reckless carefree adolescents to stern working professionals (that’s how the analogy is explained in most instances); the whole basic meaning of being able to “communicate” changes. Yes, we do not just speak or hear to be merely acknowledged.
We need acts of requiring to know that we’re genuinely being heard and given attention to.

In this whole process of being a “communicator,” we often miss onto an essential element of rather being an “effective communicator”. One could not deny the fact that we all have some room for improvement when we speak of communication skills we all possess. We constantly learn in all walks of life how essential it is to be able to transfer a conversation effectively. But, how can we do this? What are the 3 basic simple thumb rules which can make this easier than one thought it could be?

The GET Rule!!
This has not been picked up as someone else’s work or copied from anywhere. This is just an idea of my thought process and this has helped me to a really great extent. Watch out “how” this can help us all equally.

G: Good listening skills/ Good Listener
Be a good listener - only then can you be a good speaker. We have TWO ears and ONE mouth, let us all respect that fact and use it in that proportion. Many people only listen for the gap in the conversation, so they can say what they want. This isn’t listening at all. That is called “hearing” for the sake of not offending someone. Few listen to judge, few are into sympathy listener
Quick food for thought when we know we are still striving to be a good listener-
Ask them to repeat what they speak (This shows you’re interested in what someone speaks with you, also, you’re keen on reciprocating your views or thoughts on what they share with you.)
Being able to listen to someone in order to understand their situation and then responding to the situation is the best way to show that you’re a good listener. Eureka moment!

E: Empathise
Empathise is the verb form of the term “empathy” which literally means “to understand and share the feelings of another.” Yes, this is the second most essential rule for being an effective communicator. Billy Liao, an Australian entrepreneur has rightly said “when we communicate, we should listen to recreate, i.e., listen to someone not with our ears, but with our eyes; so we can hear not our thoughts about them but we can recreate the same sensations and ideas dwelling in the person speaking with you”. That’s a pure form of being sensitive and also, empathize to someone when they speak. Always try and put yourself in the other person's shoe and understand what they really wish to communicate.

T: Tonality
Watch your Tone. Don’t be rude or harsh, have compassion in your tone (voice), be courteous to others.
Best when this has risen and fall, in pitch and tone – like telling an interesting story. Always keep up the pace mid-level for the words spoken and intonate when needed. This makes it much interesting an experience when you talk to someone. Try to have a grip on that person through the way you speak. Be a storyteller and use voice modulations to your rescue. Never shout, scream or speak rudely when things do not work out your way. There’s always a subtle way to get the communication right. Let’s not forget we’re humans, we like being treated well and others expect the same respect or behaviour when we communicate with them.

So this ends the 3 mantras to lead an easy way to “effective” communication in personal and professional lives. I am sure we can do miracles if we achieve them.

P.S.: This goes out to all the tiers of a hierarchy in any organisation/ group level. We’re all in the learning phase. Let’s be the change we want to see.

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Batman

Hail BATMAN : Blogging lessons from this Superhero

Freedom of speech, freedom to be heard, and freedom to pen our thoughts- aren't these the few most amazing things which anyone of us would want to do in our rather mundane lives?

I know it’s a “yes” from majority of us. We've grown up in the era of superheroes, where we've been so influenced by them that our lifestyle revolves around “how” things would be if it were to be imagined for the uber-cool gadgets which BATMAN constructs and goes around in those cartoon series or the movie clips. Ah, this is such a wonderful thought crossing my mind. OK- getting back to the point, all I am trying to correlate here is how simple would it be if such heroes could teach us to deal with the latest tech-related age, today’s dynamic and ever-changing social media phase.

Let me point down some teachings which my hero BATMAN preaches through his actions:

- Wear a garb of magic
We’re all aware of the terminology called “Ghost Writers”, they’re those brilliantly awesome writers who write or create content for well-renowned people or use anonymous names while they blog. This is one thing which directly shows connection with Batman. Let’s not forget he has the garb that of a charmer. No one can just miss on noticing that, can we?

- Face your fear
One thing which we’re told plenty of times is to “face the music”. Yes, we need to get over our inhibitions with our writing skill-sets. Also, getting out of the little comfort zone or shell we've around us would be a wonderful step to take. We need to put our thoughts in words to get out and reach the place where “Pen is mightier than the sword”. Much more like, how Batman always “tries” his limits to know how much he can face a challenge with the never give up spirit.

- Constant learning
Gaining know-how about the topics or subjects that we do not have much inkling about is the first tiny effort we take towards “learning”. Think of it in this way, BATMAN is learning to walk (understanding that he almost always talks to the wind and flies off on the most breathtakingly awesome gadget/s always. We can always be open and receptive to new ideas, learning's which can make a difference to “how” we write those thoughts or pen them onto the blogs.

- Produce facts
Let’s try to be genuine and speak the truth about whatever content we produce/ create or even re-word. There is nothing wrong in using someone’s work as a reference point and starting to get ideas on it and making your own content. This is pretty much what I've done here. I’d like to call this “Improvisation”.

- Grip the audience
Try to make your writing one exceptional experience for any person who reads it. They should be literally forced to not leave till they've completed reading the piece created by you, which also means, try to apply the "KISS" rule - Keep it Short and Sweet. Let's not overload the blog article with a lot of information in just one go, rather make it something really interesting for the audience to view and take some insights on.

I think this should be the end to all I want to say about #Blogging. It is not herculean to start with penning our thoughts on a piece of paper. Later, all we need to do is to learn the art of "articulation" and just serve it with some garnish of spice, crunchiness and some aroma for being enticed enough to read on.Soon, we'd all be like the mighty BATMAN.

I'd end it with this famous quote by him:
"I wear a MASK, and it's not to hide who I am- but to create what I am".

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